Is she real??

Does anyone “look” for companions on-line? How do you know if they are really who they say there are?

 I’ve been corresponding to a young lady I met on Twitter. It’s only been a week or two but I am very attracted to her. Of course the only thing I can go on is the pictures she sends me and the letters we write each other. Now nobody likes to get hurt right? Well I’ve been sharing some very personal information about my past and some intimate feelings I’ve developed towards her.

Now lately I’ve been thinking: “What if she’s somebody else?” “What if she’s a man?” “Maybe she has a bunch of Boy Friends or even a husband?”. I wouldn’t really know would I? The world is full of all kinds of people. Anonymity and keeping your info private is all you hear about when it comes to meeting people on-line.

Now I understand that most of those warnings have to do with money. Bank accounts, Credit Cards, Phone numbers. That sort of thing. But what about having your heart broken? How does one protect themselves from that? Just how much should I share?

Honesty and truth is the most important thing when it comes to relationships. If a person is hiding behind an email address or twitter user name how can there be real honesty? Twitter and Face-book do the best they can validating users but let’s face it. It’s really not that hard to create a fake account.

So do I share my heart and personal life and hope I won’t get burnt? Or do I just keep my distance and share only what she needs to know? If so, what’s the point? A could really use some input on this.

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Scammers

The real me

WOW! I can’t believe how many “scammers” are online. I’ve been hitting the dating sites and chatting with people on Twitter and Facebook. I can’t find one girl that is real. They all have some story and try to get money from me. Some of the stories they come up with are amusing. The problem is they all have the same one. They all start with “I am looking for an honest man” then they want to tell you about how their men cheated on them. Then they send you sexy pictures. Some of them send nudes and then try to get you to pay for their internet by buying them an Iphone card. Some want Amazon gift cards or other gift cards. The best part is they will tell you they never asked for money. Has anyone seen the movie with the prostitute doing sexual favors but they don’t take cash? These so called girls think they invented this shit! News flash ladies. Women have been selling themselves since the beginning of time.

And how does this “honesty thing” work?? I have to be honest but she can lie as much as she wants? I don’t get it? It’s OK for you to try and sell your body to me? Sell pictures, services or whatever? But I have to be honest and trustworthy.The internet is porn polluted! Why would any man in their right mind pay for a nude? The bad news is if there really is an honest woman out there I’m never going to trust them anyway. Relationships are built on trust. Starting out with even the smallest of lie’s will make me run to the nearest exit!

 

Romance Online

Is it possible to find romance online? I suppose so. I think the odds are against us. Lonely people like me seeking love online put ourselves in a dangerous situation. We want love and are willing to do anything to get it. We become irrational and begin making decisions based on our emotions. If this happens there are just too many “predators” out there.

First of all let’s look at the odds. Am an old “Horse Player” and I love looking at odds. For starters we really don’t have a lot of data on online relationships. Yes we’ve all seen the commercials with the cute couples claiming they met their soul mate online. This is to get you to sign up for whatever site is being advertised. It’s a great story but lets look at the facts.

The odds of you meeting your soul mate online are higher then winning the state lottery. First of all, what are the odds of you meeting someone you like and are compatible with? Think about. There’s like 3 million or more people online. Now lets say for argument sake we only include people that really want to meet someone. Right off the bat that number is cut in half. Now, how many people just want a one night stand? I would say at least half of that number.

Next we only want to count the straight people looking for love. Are you with me? Now we want to narrow our search down to people we are compatible with. Yes! Age Does matter Ladies!

What could I possibly have in common with a woman 30 years younger than me? Other then sex? What do we talk about? and what man wouldn’t desire to be with younger woman to sleep with? Soft firm breasts. Smooth silky legs. But More importantly a vagina that actually gets wet! Cut that number in half again.

Now let’s eliminate all the people that don’t even live in the same state as you. Sure you can tell yourself love won’t get in the way of that, but I can tell you that’s a bunch of crap! Unless you have the the money and time away from your job it’s not going to work out. What do you do when they tell you I’m not leaving. I was fired. Then what? This is real life folks. It’s not a movie.

Next we need to weed out all the dishonest people? Men portraying women. Women portraying men. These predators are very good at what they do. You’ll swear you’ve found “the love of your life!

I spend a lot of time online and get interviewed by a a lot of women saying the same exact thing. “I’m looking for an honest man” “I was really hurt by my husband or boyfriend” “I just need a man that will love me for who I am”. Frankly I think they are all in the same union but that’s just me.

Your not going to find love swapping pictures, nudes, dick pics or whatever else you do online. I found the prettiest girl I’ve seen in 20 years. I would melt just looking at her pretty face. I began acting like a 15 year old in heat. I did some things that I’m just too embarrassed to admit.

The most important thing in a relationship is the “connection” and the sharing of one another other. To look into each others eyes and see them smile. The intimacy. The “connection”.

So what are the odds of meeting your soul mate online? I’d say 2.6 million to one.

That’s just my opinion…….I could be wrong

I think she’s real!

Thanks for all the advice from everyone. I almost “blew it” and scared her off. I was accusing her of catfishing and wanting money. I was acting like a detective questioning a suspect of a homicide. A complete A-hole!


I mean she was just too good to be true! Young and Beautiful. What did she want with me? Money? My social security number what? Then we both got mad and she blocked me on Twitter and so did I. That was it! She was pissed at me  and I was convinced her attentions were all wrong.  

Welp, two days went by and she sent me a text by accident. I knew it was for someone else so I replied “You text the wrong man” She replied “Don’t start! Your getting on my nerves” I text back: “I’m just letting you know you text the wrong person. Maybe it’s important. I don’t know??” that was followed by a 2 hour chat session.

Now we are both in-love again. For now anyway. We are going to start over and see how it goes. Now I’m no expert on this online stuff and meeting people. I can tell you this…I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in a very long time!

Younger Woman?? What now?

I met a young lady online and I’m really confused about it. She is an independent mother of one. She is really pretty and has a 3 year old son. We found each other on Twitter. She wants a relationship with an older man and is considering yours truly for a partner. I am 30 years her senior and I find myself in uncharted waters.

Let me explain “our” situation. I want to say straight off nothing is going to happen right away. I live in one of the eastern states and she lives in one of the southern states. I can tell you that women with southern accents and tattoos make “nuts” she has both! She has a growing business and wants to keep it growing. She has worked very hard to get where she it today. She was in a relationship with a younger man and the guy stole a lot of money from her. He was also fooling around with a friend of hers. So now she is leery about getting serious with a younger man and wants someone more “mature and on the same emotional level as her.”

I’m not sure what that means exactly but if she feels this way who am I to tell her she’s wrong? I’m by no means an expert on relationships. I was divorced many years ago and haven’t been with another woman since. I’ve learned how to be single and I’m comfortable with the idea of being a bachelor the rest of my life. I’m not going to deny the fact that I really do miss the company of a woman. Especially one I get along with and not constantly arguing with.

Now I’ve been doing some soul searching and I’m thinking maybe this would be good for both of us. She needs someone to be a father to her son. She needs someone to fix the leaky sink. She also told me she craves hugs. Now I have to admit, I’ve always wanted to leave the State I live in and would surely welcome the company of a woman. I feel like I’m in a Hollywood movie and I don’t know how it ends. Should I not even consider getting involved with this beautiful lady because of our age difference? Am I setting myself up for pain and disappointment? Is wanting to be with a woman effecting my decision making? I’m so confused! Comments anyone?

 

 

To be continued…